2 Weddings or flying? My Parents live in Germany and my fiances family in the USA. What makes more sense?
I really want my family with me. everybody does. But my parents and Parents-in-law do not have a lot of money. Makes it sense to "ship" one family? Or makes it sense to bring my parents over here for one wedding and his parents over to Germany for the other one..... Its so hard!!!
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One wedding and fly the family in.
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I would have two ceremonies, but before planning I would talk to members of both families to make sure they understand why you're doing it. If you live in the states have an official mairrage here then fly over there and have a simple ceremony. That way everyone gets to be a part of your wonderful day (or days I guess).
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Try to figure out which place host the wedding will be cheaper including air tickets and hotel fees. Don't invite too many guests and have informal or causal wedding will helps too.
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Wow. Very tough decision. I was here once and it broke us up. I wanted everyone here in the US, he wanted everyone near his home in Europe. Try picking a place in-between. Maybe the Caribbean or Ibiza? Make it a vacation for both families, tell them neither is to pay for anything, but the vacation to be with you and your mate on that special day. Ich wunche dir veile Gluck!
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One wedding ceremony, 2 receptions. I had friends that did this, excpet their family was in Oregon and Chicago, not so drastic as yours. This way you don't have to worry about the formality of the ceremony and can just celebrate with family and friends! Or I would suggest just do 2 weddings. They probably can't be as glamorous as if you were just having one, but it will mean so much to the family. Besides, i would love to relive my wedding day again, here's your chance!
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You only have a wedding day once in a lifetime if you do it right the first time. 2 weddings? How do you decide where the first will be? How do you capture that magic all over again for a second? Do the right thing and bring your parents here. Get on a registry from a store that is in the USA and Germany so your parents friends and/family from Germany can join in on the gift giving. Best wishes for a long and happy marriage.
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1 small wedding. 1 video recorder. 2 big receptions with a big screen looping the ceremony.
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We had the same issue and ended up doing two very small weddings; the second one was just a reception. We both had too many people to fly. I would say it depends on -How much can you afford -How many people would need to fly -Can you accommodate all these people if they fly -Will anyone be offended if you do 2 weddings? You could also try to make a second wedding the beginning of your honeymoon... Lots to consider!
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i would say two weddings. the family can put you up in the country you don't live in. also both should help cover wedding expenses. some of what they saved on hotel rooms plane tickets and food should be put towards your wedding
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I have a friend in the military who married a Japanese woman. They got married in Japan with a traditional Japanese ceremony and took tons of photos. For their one year anniversary, they came back here to the states. They had a small "traditional" american wedding as a renewal of vows for family and friends to attend. At the reception (picnic at his parents house) they laid out the photo album of the wedding in Japan. I took a pile of pictures of the renewal of vows ceremony and made a photo album full of pictures (and put them all on cd also). They took that album home to Japan for her family to see what happened here. I hope this helps. I just thought of a second option...go on a cruise or somewhere romantic and get married, just the two of you and then hold the two receptions like people have already suggested.
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Fly them both in.
