Being stationed in Bamberg Germany..?
My husband is being stationed in Bamberg and is set for deployment for Oct. 09 we will get there at the end of August 09. We have a 1 year old son as well. I work full time and planned on going back to school this month but than was told we are being pcs'd to germany so i decided to wait.. (again) well my question is.. is it worth it to move for 6 weeks across the world? i am in DC now and give up my gov job and my husbands family? my family lives in texas and the fam i have here well dont really have any. i make really good money just about the same as my husband and I dont know how giving up my income and downsizing a couple thousand $$ is going to take on my family. but my husband really wants us to move with him and than just come back after he deploys, but how would that work and also BAH here in DC is great in germany its about 500 less and i would be giving up my income. Also i have my own apartment but i only stay there for 8 days out of the month since my inlaws keep my son during the day i have found it easier to stay anight there during the week days, and my husband wants me to give that up if i stay in the states but he doesnt pay any of the bills. All of his income is being put into a savings for our new home and its furnishings. but yes so i pay rent car note phones everything on my income and still do okay so i was just hoping that someone would see my side and if not give me some good advice that would help me.. i really dont know what to do.. the thought of moving to another country excites me but to be there for 12 months without my husband scares me. and about Bamberg.. has anyone been there as a wife of a deployed solider and stayed throughtout the deployment, instead of coming home? sorry for the run on.. but clearly yall can see im lost.. thanks for the help in advance Also I am in the national guard and have the option to go back active. Can anyone give me a listing for housing there if i chose to go back active. Okay so i know the economy is bad but jeez women, its not that bad where we wouldnt be able to afford to make the move on our own, i might not have been totally honest about the money thing.. when i said we make about the same well not really we both make several thousand a month but i kinda make a bit more than he does. so money isnt the problem i guess i was just looking for reason not to move, i mean he does deploy in Oct but after long hard thoughts and talking it over with him. i am going to move there with him and stay for his total tour there. i will just fly in family every few months and visit the states once a month if even that. Thanks for the advice but not very helpful.
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Honestly, it does not sound worth it to move. While it would be nice to be together there is just SO much you would be losing.
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Just a question......who is paying for you to move back 6 weeks later??????? The Military sure isn't that's for sure! But if you don't move your belongings when he PCSs, then the military won't pay for it later either. I see both sides of this. You have a great support system. Which is awesome. Allot of people don't have that. You are comfortable where you live now. You are making good money. You want to complete your schooling. He is not going to leave Germany as soon as he gets back from deployment. So how are you going to pay to move there? Then you also have to worry about getting command sponsorship over a year after he has been there. You would most likely have to take that money out of your housing fund. Are you 2 prepared to do that? Are you prepared to possibly stay in the states for his whole term in Germany? Have you checked into online college courses? Yup this is a hard one, but the 2 of you are going to have to make this decision. You need to decide what is best for the whole family and not just one of the people involved. I have been stationed in Germany & lived in Germany as a child. It's awesome, maybe one of the best OCONUS assignments you can get.You will find work, and have on post daycare for your child.
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-Why only 6 weeks. So you would come back if he were to deploy? Or why would you not stay in Germany and do some traveling? My girls and I saw 15 other countries while we were stationed in Germany. And my husband deployed 2 times from Germany, which is when we did most of our traveling. We never came home except for one funeral. -Once he PCS's to germany you will lose the BAH rate for DC anyways, it will go to Germany. And if you don't go over, you will not get the COLA rate which will more than make up for the BAH you will lose. And if you decide to move back from Germany you will lose COLA. And the military will not pay for you to move back if the move is on your own. -If you are really worried about it all, Stay put then. Then move there after the deployment if they will even let you by then. But then remember that if you decide not to go then, he will still be there at least 3 years. If you need any certain answers on Germany let me know, we spent almost 4 years there and would go back tomorrow if we could. Good luck
